Self Esteem is an important topic that unfortunately is not discussed as frequently as it should be. Are you suffering from low self esteem or shattered confidence in yourself? Do you want a few quick ways to boost your self esteem that are easy and sustainable?
I want to share a few easy ways to improve your self esteem that are simple and have worked wonders for Kelli and I and many members of our business and organization..
Self Esteem is defined as, “confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect.”
So the questions to ask yourself are..
What are quick ways I can boost my self esteem on a daily basis?
What are the benefits of boosting my self esteem?
Answering these two questions will provide both the how and why to boosting self esteem which will lead to a much more improved quality of life. I think upon further inspection a high self esteem will reveal itself to be one of the most important aspects of your life because of its numerous benefits.
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on.” – Maxwell Maltz
What are quick ways to boost your self esteem?
Realizing That You Are Unique
Is there any other person out there in the world who has the same exact qualities, personality, physical attributes, smile or habits that you do?
The answer is NO!
The first way to boost your self esteem is to know that you are 100% unique. The person you are today is because of the specific thoughts, actions, beliefs and circumstances that you have encountered throughout your whole life.
How does this boost your self esteem?
Well, knowing that you are completely unique will give you a new sense of certainty and belief about your experiences (good or bad) and help you to realize that “what you are is an unchangeable fact, what you can yet become is a boundless opportunity.”
Coming to terms with who you are as a person or where you are in current circumstances can give you a new sense of direction and confidence about the future knowing that you can affect the outcome of your future. You can make new choices about where you’re headed in your journey!
Don’t Take Anything Personally
In Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements, the Second Agreement is to not take anything personally.
This means to never be upset or take offense to what other people do or say (if you want to boost your self esteem) and to know that what other people say or do is not because of you but because of them.
Getting upset or taking what a friend or family member says to you is a form of selfishness because your view is that everything revolves around you. Selfishness can only lead to a low self esteem because you are allowing others to dictate how you think and feel.
In the book, Ruiz states, “Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.”
Powerful meaning to that statement. By far the quickest way to boost your self esteem is to take this seriously and begin to practice leaving behind feelings of taking offense or being upset with others. Nothing others do has anything to do with you!
“Self-actualized people are independent of the good opinions of others.” – Wayne Dyer
Ask Better Questions, Get Better Answers
I have a whole post here that goes over the power of questions. It is a very powerful tool to boosting self esteem.
Basically it means this: the questions we ask ourselves are producing our answers, therefore manifesting our results.
For example, if you ask yourself, “Why do I always screw things up?”
You might not actually screw things up, but your brain is going to find an answer and it might say, “Because you’re a loser.”
Instead you could ask yourself, “Why do I solve every problem effectively?”
Your brain will come up with an answer and respond, “Because you’re an effective person.”
This is a very simple process but so powerful in boosting your self esteem. It’s a quick way but will take some practice and repetition but if you commit to the habit it will improve your self esteem immensely!
What are the benefits of boosting your self esteem?
There are many benefits:
- Increased Confidence
- Improved Fulfillment
- Getting Rid of Negative Thoughts and Feelings
- Improving Results In Business or Your Job
- More Happy and Harmonious Home Life
- Greater Acceptance of Friends and Family
There are almost too many benefits to mention but I think those sum it up well. Boosting your self esteem can dramatically improve the results in your daily life, I guarantee it.
What other practical ways have you used to boost your self esteem? How has boosting your self esteem improved the quality of your life?
I would love to hear your feedback and implement a new habit. Feel free to share this with friends or family and spread the love of improved self esteem, everyone will benefit from it!